Falsities of Shame

I love losing. Being a loser has far more fringe benefits than you would imagine. Call me sour grapes but winning seldom has its own rewards, if any, and if they do they're definitely not worth what you lost to win. Losing gives you much more than what winning takes away from you. Winning snatches humility away,takes truthfulness away, because of the need to prove yourself every time, to keep the expectations up, you lie. Winning takes away true friends by giving a whole load of falsies. Winning surrounds you with jealousy.

And losing? It gives you humility, keeps you grounded. Lets you know who your true friends are, Losing lets you be honest, So what I sucked?! Nobody's really that jealous of a loser. Jealousy usually brings in a lot of aggravation which you don’t need.

Losing lets you live for yourself rather than for others. It gives you a chance to live up to your own expectations for once as people tend to stop having expectations once you have failed. You are redeemed and given a chance to pursue what you want without the falsities of shame. Sure shame comes in at the very beginning but it’s a lot like when you stub your toe with the awkwardly placed dressing table in your bedroom, the pain comes hard and fast, but when you just stand on one leg and press your toe down on the other for a few seconds, the pain goes away. Similarly the shame goes away after the initial self-pity phases.

Losing and shame are constantly related by other people rather than yourselves. Its an unwritten and sometimes a written code that if you lose you've got to be ashamed. That’s the accepted behavioral reaction, any other form of response is unacceptable to society. Lets face it. We love our losers. They are a constant source of amusement. Our winners are always in interim. You win one, then someone wins another and you are forgotten. But losing gives you an irreplaceable place in history. Once a loser, always is. No matter how badly the other guy fucked up. Be sure people aren't going to forget where you did.

We keep losing to life, time, opportunities, people, each gives you a valuable lesson . The difference between losing and winning is the same as eating in a Chinese restaurant and an Indian one. In both you have a hearty meal but in the Chinese restaurant you get a fortune cookie with some wisdom on it, and in the Indian one you get a tissue full of Saunf which you'll be needing to digest that ego. The fact that you’re a loser always seems to bother other people than yourself. Its like they are ashamed to be around you but not against you. One loser can successfully unite 50 people more than a winner can irrespective of their differences in the process of ridiculing him.

Like always the choice is yours. Whether you want to dine in a Chinese restaurant or an Indian one its important that you satiate your hunger for life, If the Noodles do it for you well and good but if its Dal makhani you crave for, your going to have a helluva time digesting it.